first you want to massage it and rub it out a bit. its better if its wet, cause that way its easier rub. then, to get the best results, use your fingers and really get it in there. kinda knead it some and rub, making sure its still wet. if its wider, you might need to use three fingers (ive heard some people use whole fists, but that seems like a disaster waiting to happen) anyway, keep massaging and rubing with your fingers, making sure you really get some depth, and be firm too, thats the best way to get depth. she wont like it as much if its not deep enough. if you do all of this right, you should be able to make a very nice clay cup for wife or mother or that special someone ;)

glad i could help you colport